The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations
by Sophia Bailey
Okay so the weekend of romance has come and gone, whether it was the best ever or one of the worst depends on what you expected to happen.
Looking back through the years I think the simplest gestures made me happiest, especially when unexpected . If I’ve been disappointed, something was said or done in a way that I didn’t expect.
How many times have you heard the words or had the thought?
‘I thought he would have made more of an effort’
‘I thought she would have appreciated it’
‘I thought they would have understood what I meant’
When we think or expect someone to say or do something in one way, we limit their ability to surprise us with another possibility and we can take their actions as hurtful.
Most people act in a way that they think is of benefit to both of you. They have the best intentions, think they are right and expect everyone to see things their way. We all do it so this is nothing new but we rarely understand what the other person must have been thinking to have them feel what they did to us was ok.
When something disappoints you ask yourself, what did I expect to happen?
Do I have a justified reason to expect that outcome from that person? Is that who they are? If not, why am I upset?
Expecting a particular outcome from someone else can stop us from understanding their intentions and seeing them as they truly are.
If you followed the suggestion in my last newsletter, I hope you enjoyed pampering yourself and reading over your valentines list of great things about you.
I ended up spending time with my girls last night, my perfect valentines :-) and reading a few of the brilliant blogs posted by PPSN members in the last few weeks.
Whether you were out with someone new , have just said goodbye to someone old, or you want a way to pamper the special person that has always been in your life, I know you will find something of value in the articles below.
Sending Continuous Love
How To Know You Have Met Your Ideal Person
Posted by ROGER MILLAR
How do you know you have met your ideal mate? A question many have asked who are in a relationship and are contemplating taking the next step which may invariably involve some or all of the below;
These series of questions should help you reach your own conclusion about one of the most important decisions of your life.
Are you afraid of commitment?
If you are afraid of commitment whether you have met your ideal mate or not, you will sabotage your answer due to fear. If that is you admit it to yourself and your partner; that is the beginning of change... (MORE ON LINK BELOW)
Nigerian Valentine Dish
Posted by Funke
Valentine’s Day is upon us and you know what that means… time to start or renew your love and commitments. ~ Here is Nigeria’s contribution to Valentine’s Day culinary delight. Make this the most memorable Valentine’s Day yet!
Starters: It’s romantic to serve small snacky things as you chat with your loved ones and sip on some wine and drinks. Suggested starters:
• Fish & yam balls
• Tiger prawns with spicy dip
• Ojojo rings
• Chin-chin, groundnuts or cashew nuts mix.... (MORE ON LINK BELOW)
How to Get Over Your Ex
Posted by Christine Morris
Do you know that it does not have to take a long time to get over your ex? The speed with which you get over your ex depends on how willing you are to let go of that old relationship.
* The first step to your recovery is to acknowledge that the relationship is over. Once you have accepted this, you make space in your mind to move on, thereby giving you peace of mind to find a new relationship.
* Yes, you feel loss when the relationship ends and you will need time to grieve. You can make this process short by crying, getting rid of the things that remind you of the person, talking about it and letting go of any anger you feel towards your ex. This will lessen or completely eliminate any negative emotions and stop you feeling like a victim. The grieving process creates space in your life for what you really want... (MORE ON LINK BELOW).
Are You Living or Just Surviving?
Posted by Dionne Jude
Life has to be lived so totally, so intensely that you can squeeze each minute’s juice without leaving a single drop behind’. Osho
There was a time in my life when I was constantly striving and focussing on the future. I had loads of great ideas, and worked day-in and day-out to make things happen. My mind was always thinking how great things would be when I achieved what I desired. What I didn’t know then, what I know now, was that the very experience I was seeking to create for myself, was available to me right where I was.